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An Eventful Sunday
So, I finally got to see the famous Tretyakovsky Art Gallery, home of Russia's most famous pieces of art. It was really interesting. Unfortunately no photograhy is allowed inside. I did pick up some picture books and postcards of the city though. Maybe I can put some of those in my gallery.
In other news, I need to come clean about something. Dating when you are a student missionary is quite a touchy subject, and is strongly discouraged by the powers that be. However, I know of a former teacher in my job that married a Russian and stayed in Russia. I know of another former teacher, now in the US, who is engaged to a Russian friend of mine here.
As for my situation, for the last few months, I have had a friend from church that I would spend time with on the weekends (we never had time to see each other during the week!). We weren't dating officially most of that time, and we did always spend time together with a group of others. She actually is a dentist, and has her hopes set on going to Loma Linda someday. And she insists on doing that before getting married.
Anyway, you probably noticed how that was all written in the past tense. Its all over now. Our friendship has been off and on several times. We haven't been officially dating for several weeks, but yesterday it all came to a dramatic ending. I have to say that jealousy and emotional insecurity are a huge problem here. Is there a such thing as an emotionally stable female? Perhaps it's just a result of overbearing Adventist parents that want to shape thier daughters into perfect little girls.
Last night a friend of my roommate's called from the US to test calling to mobile phones abroad. My "girlfriend" jumped to the conclusion that this was some girl I was seeing! She never wants to talk to me again! I am not upset. This is actually good; no loss to me. In conclusion, I guess it is a better idea to stay away from love at all, especially as a lonely SM. Such is life; it is really hard being young.
posted by Excalibur at
11:46
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3 Comments:
I always loved "THe Wedding Singer" with Adam Sandler because of the song he sings: "LOVE STINKS!" Ok. I know I'm not being helpful right now.
However, I came across this in one of my literature classes, and found it rang hilariously true, so read on, my male friend:
"Souls Belated" by Edith Wharton:
"He looked at her hopelessly. Nothing is more perplexing to man than the mental process of a woman who reasons her emotions" (Norton Anthology of American Literature, Volume C 853).
"They had reached that memorable point in every heart-history when, for the first time, the man seems obtuse and the woman irrational" (853).
it sounds like she's not emotionally mature to handle a relationship, and besides, why rush life anyway? Both of you guys have one or two years of college left, and it blows me away how much we all change in one or two years during these pivital times in our lives. Its just one of those things where I've made it a personal motto to not get married while in college still, because it is too traumatic, financially draining, emotionally draining, and plus, we are all changing right now. It is nice to have "someone special" to make you feel good, and for that, I am sorry this didn't work out for you. Other than that, look at it this way. FOOT LOOSE AND FANCY FREE! You can go out and enjoy yourself, without having to listen to a female trying to reason her emotions (which is impossible, btw), and an emotional rollar-coaster (you'll have the rest of your lifetime to deal with that when you get married, so why push it now?!?!?!?!). Ok. I'll shut up. I'm very opinionated on this topic :). Enjoy singleness. Its absolutely crazy fun!
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Sweet Onion, at 23:32
"Is there a such thing as an emotionally stable female?"
Hmm... not in my experience. I know a few that I would say are close, but for the most part, No.
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Anonymous, at 22:45
Ok, ok, in defense of women: emotions are not necessarily a BAD thing--it brings beauty and life to a tiresome world, it brings joy to pain, it colors an otherwise bleak world. Now the goal of women is to balance emotion with logic--and the goal of men is to balance logic with emotion. In a relationship, one with out the other will create a dysfunctional horrid relationship :) which I totally understand, btw :)
I have my up and down days just like everyone else--and when they are down, I usually end up not talking to anyone, because nobody wants to hear my crap just like I don't either :). I guess I can't explain emotions. They are illogical, but that isn't necessarily bad either :). I think men need to read up on women's emotions, and women need to get a grip on life :). Ok. I'll end my diatribe, or rather, digging of my own grave right now, and run to class, where we are watching a Victorian movie on an emotional woman. HURRAHS for the two guys in our class!!!
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Sweet Onion, at 21:57
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